Saturday, May 25, 2013

The Little DEAR

Self expression: the passage of teenagers.  Am I right?  Well, The Boy is expressing himself with his tongue planted firmly in his cheek.  He added this little beauty to "personalize" his new truck:


You can see the placement in the back window, behind the passenger side seats.  He had combed the internet to find one.  when he told me that this is what he was looking for I worried it would be even MORE redneck than this.  But this I can handle.

And in the grand scheme of things--like the size of this truck--it isn't too bad.

Plus, in the grander scheme of things, he didn't choose a tattoo or piercing, or other sort of "self-expression".

You know, the more I look at this window cling on his truck, the more I like it!!

Friday, May 24, 2013

Pulling It Together

We had yet another suicide this week in our little high school community.  A sophomore.  He had friends and got good grades, and by all accounts, didn't seem to "fit the profile".  But he is gone.  And his friends are left to pick up the pieces of the end of school memories and try to understand something that doesn't make any sense.  To anyone. Even adults.

The ironic part here is that two days before the news of his death, we had a BIG community wide Suicide Prevention meeting where several people spoke about their experiences with children whom they have lost and from experts that had some insights and words of counsel and prevention.  I meant to go, but lost track of time that evening and didn't make it.  But I heard it was well attended and very well done.

I worry about the kids left behind when their friend makes this permanent kind of choice.  Most don't have the skills to comprehend any aspect of that kind of decision, and there is a lot of blame swirled about.  Others don't have an objective, rational outlet for their grief and the dead friend almost becomes a perfected memorialization of himself. 

When this happened earlier this year, there were rumors of copycat kids who saw the outpouring of grief, love and postmortem honor and it was worried that those kids on the fringe would see the "glory" achieved by the dead and want to have that too.  What these people choose to do is a selfish act, a criminal act.  And that kind of thing shouldn't be glorified.  But the kids left behind don't really know how to behave and their wearing "Sunday dress", for example, is really a sign of respect to the families of those who has passed away, more so than a glorifying of the one lost.  But the kids don't always get that--or even why they do it.  'The rest of the school is dressing up, it so they all must have loved him', kind of thinking.  Then it gets a little slippery.

Our town has now lost three kids since January.  Whatever degree of mental illness they were each suffering with isn't even mentioned, yet they certainly must have been dealing with that.  I wish we could talk more openly with our kids, and each other, about the mentally ill and the help that is out there and the concern we have for those with this potentially life-ending debilitation.  But it just isn't something we want to deal with.  It is uncomfortable and if we really look at it closely, we might see we all have a little bit to work through in our own lives--and that is the scariest thing if all.  It could have been us.  It could have been them.  It could have been...

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Bad Mom

Sunday night was the Seminary graduation.  The Girl has served as our stake's Seminary Council representative, so she had to speak at the graduation.  We had a good group of kids graduate and The Girl did a pretty great job on her talk.  But did anyone (read: her mom) get a photo from the night!?!  NO!

What is this world coming to that I can't remember to bring a camera to a graduation event?

Holy cow.  That is just bad.  I've become too complacent, apparently and not at all like the Good Mom I was when the kids were little and I was taking pictures of them everywhere, doing anything.

So sad.  I guess I need a good long weekend timeout.  Maybe this weekend?

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

So Long, Farewell...

My mom let me know that my hometown newspaper, we fondly called "The Dogpatch", had run a story on my former choir director.  Mr Robb is retiring this year after 30 years of teaching music in my hometown of Gilroy.  Here is the article:

Farewell, Maestro

Carly Gelsinger | Posted: Friday, May 17, 2013 6:00 am
They held it together until the second-to-last song. The a capella voices of 53 chamber singers – a mix of students from the Garlic Capital’s two main high schools – filled the cathedral at Mission San Juan Bautista with sweet harmonies toward the end of what marked the last spring concert for Gilroy’s legendary choir teacher, Phil Robb.
There had been intermittent sniffles and tender moments during the hour-and-a-half April 17 concert from student performers and a jam-packed audience of 500 – but for the most part, the evening rode on a wave of upbeat emotional energy.
That is, until Robb himself cracked.
The choir held hands as they sang, “Good Night, Dear Heart,” a simple, melancholic tune about goodbyes, with lyrics foraged from the epitaph author Mark Twain used on his deceased daughter's headstone. During the song, Robb led the singers by waving his hands around in his trademark expressive way – until the last stanza, when he doubled over with emotion.
This led the singers, who had been dangling on an emotional thread all night, to burst. On the last note, they erupted in a scene of sobs and embraces.
“Nobody said it was going to be easy,” said Robb wistfully as the choir dried their tears.
The iconic choral director will retire June 14 after a 30-year career instilling the joy of singing to Gilroy high schoolers. Under Robb's direction since 1984, the music program at Gilroy High School flourished and grew to a widely revered program among academic and musical communities throughout the state and beyond. When CHS opened up in 2008, Robb took that on, too, building the department from scratch and laying the foundations for another choral program as he darted back and forth teaching at both campuses during the week.
The musical legacy that Robb will soon leave behind was on display the night of his final spring concert, when a thousand parents, former students and community members came out over two nights to pay homage to the man who deeply impacted generations of Gilroyans.
“It felt like 1997 all over again,” said Danielle Rhinehart, a 2000 GHS graduate, moments after the concert ended with an uproarious standing ovation. “That was the year I would sit outside the door of the choir room and listen in on Mr. Robb's class. It was the year I knew I wanted to join choir.”
Rhinehart stood with her brother, Josh Rhinehart, 25, reminiscing about their days in Robb’s chamber singer groups.
“It was the absolute happiest time of my life,” Danielle continued. “I honestly think music kept me in school.”
Josh Rhinehart remembers his first day in choir like it was yesterday.
“I walked in, and Mr. Robb was playing the piano. Without looking up or turning around, he said 'Mr. Rhinehart, it's about time you joined,'” he said.
As Danielle stood inside the brightly-lit sanctuary after the concert, recalling some of her favorite memories, puffy-eyed singers dressed in black dresses and tuxes mingled around their families, wiping their eyes and laughing.
A family with two generations of Robb students, 1985 GHS alumna Katie Day and her son, Jake Day – who graduated last year – laughed as they remembered the director milling around the cafeteria at lunchtime, attempting to recruit new students for choir.
“He makes people join that you would never see as the ‘choir type,' ” Jake said. “At CHS and GHS, there was no choir type. It was full of jocks and all kinds of people. Mr. Robb made singing cool.”
Katie described spring concerts in the mid-1980s, when the choir women wore puffy pink dresses and the men sported snappy gray suits.
“That's how long Phil has been enriching us. Since the days of pink dresses and gray suits,” Katie laughed.
Pamela Robb, Phil's wife of 36 years, said she's looking forward to her husband's “very modified, put-my-two-feet-in-the-water kind of retirement.”
Pamela said that although Phil, who she described as “a little hyperactive,” will step away from his full-time role at GUSD, he'll continue to dabble in teaching music with his part-time role at Advent Lutheran Church in Morgan Hill. He's also been hired by GUSD for the next school year as a part-time musical mentor to the two choral instructors that will succeed him, thanks to a $30,000 stipend from the Connell family, Gilroy's longtime choral music benefactors.
His legacy will live on symbolically as well. The GUSD Board of Education voted unanimously last week to name the GHS music building in his honor, which is a big deal considering GUSD's policy is to name a facility after individuals “only under extraordinary circumstances.”
Robb began teaching choir within GUSD in 1981 as an elementary school specialist. Throughout the ’80s and early ’90s, Robb filled numerous musical roles in the district at the elementary, junior high and high school levels, zipping around between campuses on his 10-speed bike, holding a guitar under his arm. In 1992, eight years after taking on his first high school choral class, he transitioned to teaching solely at the high school level.
After years of arranging excursions for Gilroy choir students to stay with host families in Japan, Robb and his wife helped establish the Gilroy-Takko Student Exchange Program four years ago. The program allows GUSD students to become enmeshed in Japanese culture, traditions and lifestyles, while strengthening a transcontinental relationship and forming new friendships with Gilroy's sister city.
Other highlights of Robb's 30-year career with GUSD include what he described as the “musical moments” – a fleeting minute of spine-tingling euphoria brought on by creating or listening to beautiful music – that he experienced with his singers over the years. During his tenure, Robb enjoyed these moments during student performances at Carnegie Hall, a Gospel church in Harlem and an empty train station in Sacramento.
As the choir sang those last chords of “Good Night, Dear Heart,” during his last spring concert, Robb relished one of his final musical moments he'll have with his students.
“Mark Twain's life changed dramatically after his daughter died. In that beautiful, lingering last chord, you can just sense Mark Twain not wanting to let go of her,” he said. “I suppose, in a sense, I didn't want to let go either.”
 
 
In the online version of this story there were several photos, certainly courtesy of Mr Robb's lovely wife Pam, that showed the choir all over the world.  The final photo was this--the original Chamber Ensemble...see anyone familiar?
 
This photo gives the phrase "You've come a long way, baby" a whole new meaning!

I thoroughly enjoyed singing as a senior in high school.  It was the only year I sang.  I had two open class periods and Mr Robb was desperate for voices back in the early days, so I sang in the Concert choir, and even qualified for the Chamber Ensemble.  Boy I had a good time with these guys.  We had a rag-tag group and sang our little hearts out.  And Mr Robb was there for all the fun, drama, and learning--making a difference all along the way.  That is what I love most about those high school memories.  I knew I had teachers who cared about me--not just my grades--but me, as a person.  Mr Robb was especially good at that.  He will be dearly missed!  But his family has much to look forward to, I'm sure!  Congratulations, Mr. Robb!  Thanks for the memories.
 
 

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Not Again?!

Friday afternoon I came home and checked the mail.  In the pile of catalogs, dental ads, and pizza coupons, was an official looking letter addressed to me.  Once I opened it, I was both disappointed and more than a little anxious.  It was notice that I have been "randomly selected as a prospective juror".  Really??!!  Seems like I just did this not that long ago.  Genius golfer haven't EVER had a jury duty notice.

Argh!

At least this is just for our county courts.  When I was seated in a jury, it was for the federal system and it was awful.  This will at least be more local, but still--a hassle!

My window of selection will be July 1 through September 30.  So, here's hoping that I don't need to serve.

But my luck isn't that good.  You know that.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Announcement, Announcement, Anno-ounce-ment!

After a crazy. hairy project, and loads of PhotoShop help from my Dear Friend Wendy, here is what we ended up with for The Girl's graduation announcement:





The Girl did her own word selection o the announcement itself, thus the "Epic Conclusion" part.  But I think it fits her.  We are just very proud of her and so excited to see what next great thing she gets to do.

Sunday, May 19, 2013