Sounds Good

Yesterday I heard a topic on the afternoon talk radio station that made me think.  The hosts were talking with a family/marriage counselor about relationships.  Something the counselor said resonated with me all night and throughout today.

He said "You can't talk your way out of something you acted your way into."

What I got from that was no matter what word you use after you display bad behavior, there is nothing that will completely erase that behavior from memory.   It kind of goes with the "Do as I say, not as I do" mentality.

How often am I judged by those around me--my family, my friends, my neighbors, and total strangers--bases solely on what actions?  I know when I have made mistakes and then apologized as quick as I could, in the back of their minds they could have been still doubting the sincerity of my apology.  And really I don't blame them.

I believe what I see you do for a lot longer than I believe what you say you'll do, or think, or whatever.  Is this proof of my judgemental-ness?  Maybe.  But I think we all make snap decisions about those with whom we associate--and that is generally formed from their actions.

"You can't talk your way out of something you acted your way into."

There is truth in that statement.  Like, the kind of truth that gets embroidered on throw pillows; Yes, that kind of truth.  Makes me want to do better.  Again.